For those like me living in Australia it is Fathers day! I had a great morning with the kids before I dropped them back at their mothers. It always amazes me at how happy we can be despite the troubles we had during the divorce. I remember how I thought I had failed as a father and how they would hate me even though their mother initiated the divorce.
The lack of support at the time was what really hit home to me. Women had all sorts of places, support lines, organisations, and even just friends more open to help. Guys have very little and their friends while in many cases helpful are not emotionally equipped to really give the support needed.
In a sad case, I had a friend who nearly broke up with his wife because she didn’t want him talking with me because she thought I was some terrible man who deserved to be divorced. He ignored her and gave me a lot of physical help moving and so forth for which I thank him greatly. It does show just how deep the lack of support can bite for men even socially.
Children though is where it is hardest. Support for fathers is in even shorter supply perhaps because society does not VALUE fathers enough in my opinion. Or at least they think that divorced fathers are not worth the effort which is a sad statement which saddens and infuriates me … which is why I found an interesting article for a new group on the Central coast of New South Wales in Australia called Dads in Distress.
I found it through a local news article ( http://express-advocate-gosford.whereilive.com.au/news/story/dads-in-distress-help-group-born ) and it sounds like a great idea. Helping fathers recover form divorce to help themselves and their children. I hope there are more and more of these sorts of groups around the world because it is sorely needed.
There are more men’s groups popping up here and there and I want you to know this is you are struggling because it is wroth seeking them out. If you need any further help of course please get a copy of my Men After Divorce guide which I keep getting positive feedback on so I hope it can help you too.